There’s no such thing as work-life balance. There are work-life choices, and you make them, and they have consequences.
Blog title is reeking of sarcasm. The truth is – I took a job with full of challenges and travel because I did not want to delay my dreams any longer. Those are goals for my life now. Most were dreams I never thought would happen. I never knew how bad I wanted things until someone says “You can’t have them”. Let me be clear – most of the time I am so healthy and full of energy that I am annoying. But having been diagnosed with systemic lupus in my college years meant leaving college and learning a new normal until the right treatment was found. Not cured – but treatment is possible at times when I need it. I am lucky, so far I have had a fairly normal 20 years since then. Initially – there was a lot of suggestions to take it easy, work at something less stressful where you aren’t needed -just in case. I have worked in the fast-paced world of hospitality holding management positions where I am not just needed but counted on for many years. Having a child was not to be counted on – would be a high risk and not probable. I have a healthy, smart and stunningly beautiful 16 year old daughter today. I did not finish college or get a degree, but still became a self published co-author for a book – because I Wanted To Be A Writer. There is more to come – but so far, I, with the support and partnership of others – have been lucky to pursue these goals, wants, these dreams.
I was given limits and pushed them for all I could. I still do – I have an urge to do things NOW, right NOW and not wait. Now – don’t be too impressed. Here are some very real stats that put this into perspective: 3 engagements, 2 marriages, 2 divorces. I can tell someone new in my line of work about how to work hard, gain knowledge, prepare and work like you already have the job you want. I cannot tell someone how to do all that and have a happy, stable home or a successful romantic LONG relationship.
And the truth is there is no one to blame – I don’t know that someone can have it ALL. I think we have times where it looks like we can, and it is likely short-lived. There is always one area of your life, maybe two – that suffer when your career is at crucial or exciting times. That is real, there will be people you disappoint and you can’t be all the places you need to be at the same time. The point is – we should always be grateful when we have another day, week, month or year to try again. But didn’t someone wise say –